Provisions.

Oooh sorry guys ,😭 I know I’ve been so inconsistent with this blog. It’s been a while since I’ve written anything, but since it’s Father’s Day, I felt like I had to jot something down for “my man” (I mean, the lucky guy… wherever he is 😅). And yes, I’m single. 😂😭💀

I don’t know where I get these ideas from, honestly. Some days I’m just quiet, then boom my mind starts spinning and everything starts to look like a love lesson.

So today, coming back from church, I asked my cousin something I’ve genuinely been thinking about: Why are some men so weird when it comes to giving?

I’m talking about men who are working, claim they’re in love, call you “babe,” pray with you, check in on your day but can’t give even $50.

And don’t get me wrong, neh. I’m not saying men should throw money around or make women dependent. No, no. But listen: there’s something important about provision. It’s not always about the amount. It’s about the effort, the mindset, the intention.

We always talk about “waiting for marriage.” We’re saving ourselves, staying faithful, avoiding temptation and that’s beautiful. But is texting, calling, praying together, and maybe sleeping over really enough to know if your partner is ready for marriage?

I’m not saying relationships should be transactional. But love must have action. If you can’t give your girlfriend a small monthly allowance, or even buy her lunch now and then, how will you handle the weight of marriage?

What happens when you lose everything one day will you be able to lean on her? Will she know how to support you if you’ve never trusted her with even a little?

Some women don’t just spend what you give them they save it, invest it, help you grow it. It’s about building together. It’s about seeing if your partner is emotionally, spiritually, and yes financially aligned with you. These are things we should be talking about in church, in friendships, and even in our group chats.

And let’s talk hormones for a second. Please, stop pretending they don’t exist. We are human. Hormones are real and they are strong. Acting like they don’t matter or don’t affect relationships is just unrealistic. Being godly doesn’t mean being blind. It means being wise.

Now, since it’s Father’s Day, I want to say this from the heart: To all the amazing fathers out there. I see you. I honor you. God bless you.

And to my future husband, the father of my future kids wherever you are, I’m still waiting. Not just physically, but spiritually, emotionally, and faithfully.

I believe in one God the living God and I trust that one day I’ll have you in my arms. But until then, let’s be real: everyone’s going through something. So don’t get too attached too quickly. The bare minimum nowadays is just being able to say: “Babe, if you ever need to talk, I’m here.”

To those of you in love right now. I wish you all the good things life has to offer. Just don’t ignore red flags. And please, don’t try to fix anyone who doesn’t want to be fixed. To my ladies especially, don’t love too deep, too fast. Because when it’s time to unlove it’s not easy. The pain is real.

The other day, I asked myself: “Will I even be able to let go of a man I’ve made soul ties with?” Honestly? I’m scared. But I trust God more than I trust my fear.

Thank you for reading.I love you. God bless you. And please don’t stop loving, just love wisely. ❤️

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