Is It Love or Just Desperation?

I never realized how desperate some men are for love until one found me. It was almost unbelievable. How do you fall head over heels for just a voice? A picture? How do you convince yourself to do anything for someone you’ve never even met? I don’t blame men for wanting love, but I now understand why some take matters into their own hands. That desperation can turn dangerous, even deadly, especially when it’s all built on an illusion.

In a world where souls are bought and sold, love has become easy to fake. A well-curated profile, a charming voice over the phone, and suddenly you’re swept off your feet. But here’s the truth: you’re not falling in love with him; you’re falling in love with the idea of him. A man you’ve never met, never touched, never seen outside of a screen…that’s not love. That’s a mirage. And chasing it can lead you into darkness.

Some men become obsessed with this idea of love. They invest their time, their money, and their hearts into a woman they’ve never met, convinced that she is “the one.” When things don’t go as planned, that obsession doesn’t just disappear it grows. It festers. And that’s when it becomes dangerous. It’s heartbreaking to admit, but desperation can turn into obsession, and obsession can turn into control. Sometimes, it even turns into violence.

As we live in a world where souls are being bought and sold, it’s crucial to get clarity. If you’re dating someone you’ve never met, I urge you to pray. Ask God if what you are entertaining is real love or something much darker. Not everything that glitters is gold; sometimes, it’s just a trap.

Love is beautiful, but it’s also real. If you’ve never seen him in person, if his words don’t match his actions, or if you feel uneasy trust that feeling. Protect your heart, your peace, and your life. Some people fall in love with strangers; others fall in love with danger.

Don’t mistake obsession for passion, or desperation for devotion. Before you give your heart away, make sure you know who’s holding it. And when in doubt, pray. Ask God if it’s love or if it’s the devil in disguise.

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