Bits of me, pieces of life

I remember a time when I felt like I was walking through life with my emotions locked away in a cage, trying to keep them from spilling out at the wrong moment. It wasn’t until I found myself in a cycle of unhealthy relationships, where my voice was drowned out and my feelings were dismissed, that I realized something was wrong. I was constantly questioning myself was I overreacting? Was I just too sensitive? I thought maybe I was the problem. But then, I discovered something that would change everything: emotional intelligence. We’ve all experienced moments in relationships where we feel unheard, drained, or stuck in a toxic cycle. Whether it’s a romantic partner, a friend, or a family member, toxic relationships can take a toll on our mental and emotional well-being. The silent emotional battles we face often go unnoticed, and we find ourselves questioning our worth, our emotions, and even our reality. It’s all about empathy and understanding others…It’s in these times that emotional...

Being the firstborn child comes with a set of unwritten rules, and no one tells you about them beforehand. You’re supposed to set the example, but who’s setting the example for you? It’s like being handed a manual that’s already been scribbled in and half the pages are missing. But you roll with it, because what else are you supposed to do? For me, it’s more about the things you  don’t  talk about. People always think they know what’s going on inside your head, just because you’re the oldest, but the truth is, you’re just figuring it all out like everyone else. The only difference is you get to do it while everyone’s watching. Like you’re the leader 🥹 I’m not really the type to overshare, so it’s easy to let people assume. I’ll admit: I don’t really care about other people’s business, unless, of course, it somehow sticks its nose right into my life. And by “sticks its nose,” I mean it messes with my space or my time. If it doesn’t, I’m content staying in my lane and focusing ...

Time. It’s something we all share, but somehow, when it comes to relationships, it feels like the most precious and scarce thing. It’s funny how we live in a world where everyone is glued to their phones, constantly reachable, always online. Yet, when you need someone the most, that same phone seems to be mysteriously out of reach. I’ve been there feeling like I was being naive, letting my heart chase someone who was always “too busy.” Busy? In a world where no one can escape a notification? Where everyone’s phone is basically an extra hand? I’ve sat there, staring at my screen, watching the clock tick away, wondering why a simple text or call felt so impossible to return. But here’s the thing. It’s not about the phone or the unanswered texts. It’s about the feeling. The feeling of being left hanging, wondering if they saw the message but just didn’t have the words to respond. It’s that silent question in your head: “Do they even care enough to make the effort?” What hurts the most is ...